Don't Worry, All the Best People Are.
A general mess of fandom and whatever crackhead thoughts are in my head.
Legal adult here, so there might be NSFW (violence, sex, bizzare horrors, etc).
basing your morality strictly on whether or not something causes actual harm leads you to radically socially unacceptable places. which to be clear. is good.
this is a way better model... you'll still get transphobic & intersexist drs of course but i prefer this to male / female or even having separate questions for gender & sex.
[we can't see the full form, but i'd suggest having a "something else" option and dominant hormone question too.]
going to spend 2024 focusing on my fundamentals. i have some ideas for big pieces but i need to learn a few things before i can pull it off. thanks for everyone who followed me through the years! :-))
going to spend 2024 focusing on my fundamentals. i have some ideas for big pieces but i need to learn a few things before i can pull it off. thanks for everyone who followed me through the years! :-))
TIL that a recent study out of the University of Kansas found that it takes about 50 hours of socializing to go from acquaintance to casual friend, an additional 40 hours to become a “real” friend, and a total of 200 hours to become a close friend.
from now on, whenever you see an art style you wish you had, instead of going "oh I WISH I could, I want ALL the art styles and yet I am CONFINED to only ONE, and anyway I am not GOOD enough to do that one!!!", repeat after me: "ooh, I wanna try that later."
like, yes, yearning feels Passionate and Artistic and Emotionally Intense, and by going "I could never do that" you leave the art you love with a kind of Legendary Mystique--as if you are a child watching a magic trick.
but you can also switch your brain to "how did they do that" mode instead and play around with anything you want. you can learn the trick for yourself. and it may seem less dazzling afterwards, but that's the price you pay to make your own magic.
in short, basically, you can do whatever you want forever.
I know no one wants to hear this, but sometimes you just have to do shit that is personally uncomfortable to you. I’m not talking morals or standards or doing what you have to in bad situations, I’m talking shit that inconveniences you. Yes, yes, you owe no one nothing and are not here for consumption and shouldn’t let yourself be walked on and so on and so forth with the affirmations, but sometimes you just have to do shit you don’t want to do.
Get up and start the day when you’re feeling like shit, smile and nod along to whatever your senile old auntie at the potluck is telling you even though you were wishing you were anywhere else because it’s polite. Get your sibling the soda out of the fridge even though you’ve just settled down in to do something and they chose the wrong time to bother you. clean the fucking cat litter. manners maketh man. exercise some. be nice when you don’t want to and help people when you don’t want to.
you don’t owe anyone anything but life will never be comfortable all the time and i’d rather force myself to get u[ and get my sibling the fucking soda than not do. it.