cynthiabaileyrug

[cynthiabaileyrug]

The Impact Of Enmeshed Mothers On Men

Enmeshment occurs when a mother fails to establish healthy emotional boundaries with her child.  She treats him more like a partner than her child, expecting him to care for her instead of the other way around.  This toxic & abusive behavior leads to a tremendous amount of dysfunction that continues into adulthood.  Today, we’ll focus on how it affects men specifically. For men with such…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #abusive #covert #disorder #dysfunctional #emotional #enmesh #enmeshed #enmeshment #incest #mom #mother #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #parentalize #parentalizing #parentification #parentified #parentifying #personality #relationship #son #toxic

[cynthiabaileyrug]

For Those Whose Relatives Severed Ties With Your Family

Family is supposed to be a source of love, support, & comfort.  Unfortunately, that’s not always the case.  For some people, their family members are toxic & abusive.  They treat you cruelly, manipulate you, or even be violent towards you.  When you’ve tried everything to make the relationship work, but it’s only led to more pain & hurt, cutting ties with your family is usually the only option…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #abusive #dysfunction #dysfunctional #family #no contact #relationship #relationships #sever ties #toxic

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Honoring Abusive Parents Is Possible But Not Always What People Think It Should Be

I have been accused countless times of failing to honor my parents & even hating them because of the topics of my writing.  However, God has shown me that honoring   parents is very possible, but it is not always what people think it is.  It is about respecting their position in your life, treating them respectfully, wanting the best for them, & appreciating any good in them.  As a Christian & a…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #abusive #Christian #Christianity #disorder #dysfunction #dysfunctional #faith #father #God #honor #honorable #honoring #life #living #mother #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #parent #parents #personality #toxic

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Cleaning Out Your Parents’ Home After Their Deaths

Many of you who follow my work are fellow Gen Xers.  This means that many of us are at the stage in life where we are faced with the inevitable loss of our parents.  It’s a painful & emotional process that often involves cleaning out their home.  This task is often much harder than expected, no matter the relationship with one’s parents.  Not only do many items hold sentimental value, but we also…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abusive #clean #cleaning #complicated #dead #death #disorder #dying #dysfunctional #estate #father #home #house #mother #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #out #parent #parents #personality #relationship #relationships #toxic

[cynthiabaileyrug]

The Importance Of Empathy In Times Of Need

A few years ago, my friend posted on Facebook that he was in the emergency room.  As soon as he posted, several of his friends replied with their own horror stories of having the same issue.  Others commented with, “cheer up…  it could be worse” type comments.  Not one person offered to visit him, help him when he recovered, or even said they hoped he felt better soon besides me.  I realized how…

View On WordPress

#care #caring #Christ #Christian #Christianity #empath #empathetic #empathic #empathize #empathy #faith #God #Jesus #kind #kindness #love

[cynthiabaileyrug]

For Those Who Think Narcissists Shouldn't Have To Face Consequences

As a victim of narcissistic abuse, I have often heard people say that narcissists shouldn’t have to face consequences for their actions.  They argue that it’s not fair to punish someone for being cruel when they have a personality disorder or because they had a hard life or some other equally lame excuse.  However, as a Christian, I believe that everyone is accountable for their actions,…

View On WordPress

#abuse #boundaries #Christian #Christianity #consequences #disorder #dysfunction #dysfunctional #emotional #enable #enabler #enablers #faith #flying #God #health #healthy #life #living #mental #mentally #monkey #monkeys #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #personality #unhealthy

[cynthiabaileyrug]

What Exactly Is Self Love?

It’s easy to throw around the term “self love” these days, but what does it really mean?  Is it just bubble baths & pep talking yourself?  Or, is it something much deeper?  Self love is not just a feel-good buzzword.  It’s a way of life that can help you live a more fulfilling & authentic life.  Self love starts with being your authentic self.  This means embracing who you truly are, flaws &…

View On WordPress

#authentic #care #emotional #esteem #healing #health #healthy #image #love #mental #self

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Understanding Your Emotional State After Abuse

Living through abuse can be one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through.  Abuse victims often experience ongoing trauma, such as growing up with abusive parents & later marrying an abusive man or woman.  This means that they can be left feeling overwhelmed & exhausted by their horrific experiences.  It can be easy to become frustrated with yourself for not being able to “bounce…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #abusive #C-PTSD #complex #disorder #emotional #healing #health #illness #mental #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #personality #post traumatic stress #PTSD #trauma #traumatic

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Never Let Someone Dysfunctional Or Abusive Determine Your Reality

For years, I had let other people’s words & actions determine my reality, including dysfunctional & abusive people who made me feel like I wasn’t good enough.  I realized that I needed to take control of my own reality & not let others dictate how I saw myself or the world around me. Dysfunctional people come in all shapes & sizes.  They can be abusive partners, toxic family members, or even…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #abusive #disorder #dysfunction #dysfunctional #emotional #gaslight #gaslighting #health #marriage #mental #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #personality #relationship

[cynthiabaileyrug]

What It Really Means When Narcissists Accuse And Insult Their Victims

Narcissists are masters at something called projection.  Basically, this is when they accuse someone of doing things that they truly haven’t done, but the narcissist does on a regular basis.  For example, a narcissist who accuses you of lying is most likely a liar.  Until you know about what they are doing, it can be tough to handle this sort of behavior.  It’s painful & baffling when you are…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abusive #disorder #emotional #healing #health #illness #mental #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #personality #project #projection #projects #verbal

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Why There Need To Be Limits On Helping Other People

As Christians, we are called to help others in need.  Galatians 6:2 in the Good News Translation reminds to “Help carry one another’s burdens, & in this way, you will obey the law of Christ.”  This is a beautiful sentiment & one that is echoed throughout the Bible.  Helping others is essential to living a fulfilling & compassionate life.  But there is a balance that needs to be in place.  We must…

View On WordPress

#care #faith #God #help #Jesus #kind #kindness #love #serve #service

[cynthiabaileyrug]

God's Great Love for His Children & Rage at Those Who Hurt Them

The day my mother was buried was a horrible day.  I felt like my sanity was hanging by a thread.  In addition to dealing with her death, I was shocked learning I had to deal with all the details of her death, her estate & the cemetery’s mistake that meant they had to exhume then rebury my father before she could be buried.  The day was made even worse by one of my awful cousins who came to…

View On WordPress

#anger #Christ #Christian #Christianity #faith #God #God&039;s #Jesus #judge #judgement #life #living #love #rage #walk #wrath

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Accusing Someone Of Bad Behavior Versus Stating Facts

Many people believe that when a victim accuses someone of hurting or abusing them, they are unfairly attacking the other person.  However, there are clear distinctions between accusing someone of bad behavior & simply stating facts.  Stating facts involves sharing events that have occurred without adding any false details.  On the other hand, accusations often involve fabrications & lies without…

View On WordPress

#accusation #accusations #accuse #behavior #deceive #disorder #dysfunctional #evil #lie #lies #manipulate #manipulation #manipulative #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #personality #toxic #truth

[cynthiabaileyrug]

About Adult Bullies

Victims of bullying & abuse understand all too well the devastating impact it can have on one’s mental & emotional well being.  While we often associate bullying with the playground or high school, the sad reality is that it can happen to anyone, at any age.  Adult bullies are a growing problem in our society, & their behavior can take many forms, from subtle manipulation to outright aggression. …

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #abusive #adult #behavior #bullies #bully #bullying #disorder #emotional #job #mental #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #personality #physical #work #workplace

[cynthiabaileyrug]

You Are Allowed To Speak Up To People Who Hurt You

While forgiveness is one aspect of the Christian faith as well as a person’s emotional well being, it doesn’t mean that we should allow ourselves to be mistreated.  If someone hurts you, it is natural to feel angry, hurt, or upset.  Even so, many people struggle to confront those who hurt them, especially if the person in question can’t handle being told they did something wrong.  Today we’ll…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #abusive #behavior #confront #confrontation #dysfunction #dysfunctional #hurt #toxic

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Things Children Of Narcissistic Parents Are Tired Of Hearing

As if growing up with a narcissistic parent or even two isn’t challenging & painful enough, these children often are subjected to stupid, ignorant comments by other people that add onto the pain.  Those in their extended family, friends of the parent’s & even those who don’t know them often have very definite opinions of the parent/child relationship.  For whatever foolish reasons, many of these…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abused #child #childhood #disorder #dysfunction #dysfunctional #family #father #mother #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #parent #personality #survive #survivor #victim

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Subtle Abuse

Abuse isn’t always loud or obvious.  It doesn’t always leave physical evidence behind that anyone can see easily, such as bruises & broken bones.  In fact, most abuse isn’t that obvious.  Covert abuse is a common term used to describe such subtle abuse.  It doesn’t leave undeniable proof that it happened.  It is very quiet & subtle, so much so that often even the victim may not realize that he or…

View On WordPress

#abuse #abusive #boyfriend #disorder #dysfunction #dysfunctional #emotional #father #gas lighting #gaslighting #girlfriend #husband #mental #mother #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #parent #parents #personality #relationship #subtle #wife