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I was never a very social young person. I was very anxious and awkward and antisocial, and I liked to fantasize about love. As I got older and came out of my shell somewhat, I got more comfortable being around people and made friends, and realized that I felt the same way about all of my relationships. I was just happy to be with people, to have fun with them, to do normal people things, and in this I realized that it was not a partner I really wanted, I just wanted to be part of a community, a social group, and at 31 I still can't tell the real difference between romantic relationships and platonic ones(which is part of why I also ID as aplatonic). If there is a difference and it's not just being excited to be with a person(s) and have fun with them, then I don't even care anymore. It's all the same to me. If I look forward to being with someone in any sense, isn't that enough? Whether we considered each other romantic partners, or friends, or something more nebulous, if we're just happy to be there, that's fine.

I do not actively want romance, I just don't want to be alone and I want to know that my existence makes people happy.

#me maybe idk

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#...hahahaa

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"why can't they just be friends" not in the homophobic way but in the "their platonic relationship in the source material is far more dynamic and complex than the sanitized personalities they gain as a result of shipping" way

#platonic #real

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an aromantic person is someone who (fill in the blank here) // april 10 2024

#a blank canvas in a way if you will #might look empty at first #but. isn't that the whole point

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This is what the aromantic flag stands for btw (sources: dude trust me)

#flashback to when someone told me that the word 'aromanticism' sounds like a religion #i agree

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Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

#support aspec men or die

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I'm excited to announce that us aros no longer have the problem of our tag being completely taken over with ace posts - because it's been replaced with a new problem! now our tag is completely taken over by motherfucking hazbin hotel.

#LMFAO???

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There's something I feel towards others that's not romantic or platonic or "love". It's something that's inherently tied to my alloaro identity. It's sexual attraction mixed with a deep longing for affection and closeness that I don't feel towards friends. Every label I've come across to describe it just doesn't feel right.

I've taken to simply describing it as "intimate" attraction. I want an intimate relationship. I think this is perfect because intimate means to be close, while also being a euphemism for sex.

I also think it would be hilarious to call the polyamorous version of intimate relationships "intimax"

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growing up as a cis girl the patriarchy told me “you’re a girl because of the way you were born, there is nothing you can do about this, you have no say in your gender” and i hated being a girl because it wasn’t my choice it was a prison and the trans community told me “you’re a girl because you say so, your view of yourself is the most important thing, if you change your mind that would be ok” and it made me proud to be a girl and feel empowered in my gender and i wasn’t trapped anymore and then terfs come along and tell me “you’re a girl because of the way you were born, there is nothing you can do about this, you have no say in your gender (but like in a woke way)” and they somehow expect me to be on their side?

#trans people made me more comfortable in my skin than cis people ever have

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me, aroallo 🤝 my friend, sex repulsed ace:

getting the ick from people having romantic sex

#we stan

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Romantic sex is the best you can get. I was just like you until I tried it. you should too

LMFAO WHAT?

#HHAHAHSGHRGHSHSA #anon i was actually just like you in which i thought romantic sex was the best #and then i tried non-romantic sex. #you should too <33333

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Thinking about the whole "cishet aromantic men" thing and I just think it kind of sucks that we see the words 'cishet' and 'men' and think "aha, there's someone who has absolutely nothing in common with us and it's us VS them" and it gets paired up with the shallow perception of aromanticism as just not wanting to date and staying single. I don't think alloromantic people can really understand what it actually feels like to be aromantic and just how alienating it can be sometimes.

So who is this hypothetical cishet aromantic man that we're so upset about? I mean labels aside he is a person with his own thoughts, feelings, goals, interests and perspective. And despite being cisgender and heterosexual, he is still outside of the norm because he is aromantic. This hypothetical person has probably wondered "why don't I feel the same way everyone else does?" He probably looked around to pick someone to have a crush on. He probably watched a movie or read a book with a love story in it and didn't think people actually felt those things. He probably feels guilty about wanting sex but not wanting the romance part of it. He probably wondered why he can't find the right person. And when he learned that he was aromantic he probably felt alone. He probably feels rejected by heteronormative society because he can't fall in love with the women he has sex with and feels rejected by the lgbtq+ community because he still wants to have sex with women.

Again, this is a hypothetical person. I don't know any cishet aromantic men personally. Probably because a lot of them either don't know what 'aromantic' even means or they know what it means but don't know it's what they are, or they know and they don't feel like they can be open about it. And all this aside, if anyone has any example of these big scary cishet aromantic men inserting themselves into queer spaces and causing problems, I would love to hear it because as far as I know this isn't a real problem

#as an aro almost-cishet wlm i want more aro hets in my life #just cause. straight as an arrow... aro... hjahaha

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Me, my sister, and her husband have started a fund and made plans to buy a house together in a few year's time, and let me just say: aro win.

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the aromantic agenda

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@makelimeade @kiwimuichiro @fallenrain40 @redysetdare @canonically47 @arodabi @drakenhert @pinnakoladda @thisvegetabledoesntfallinlove @midnightcrisisstuff @the-nefarious-vampire

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queer unity and solidarity between butches and femmes and those who are neither, between lesbians and veldians, between bis and pans and polys and omnis, between aros and aces, between trans and non-binary people, between, between LGB and TQIA+, between transmascs and transfems and transneutrals and trans-others, between aces who fuck and aces who don't, between aros who date and aros who don't, between the fluids and the statics, between polyamorous and nonamorous people, between intersex and trans and non-binary people, between unlabelled people and labelhoarders, between questioning folk and those who know and those who don't care to find out, between closeted and out people, between stealth trans folk and those who who are openly trans, between periorienteds and variorienteds, between mspecs and aspecs and non-binary and intersex people and everyone else who doesn't fit binaries, between people who use old language and people who use labels that were coined yesterday, between those with easily understood identities and those with complex identities, between fat queers and queers of colour and disabled queers and other queers who are marginalised among queers, between queers of all flavours and shades of grey and stripes of the rainbow.

queer solidarity for all, queer unity in the fight against oppression, because otherwise, they will win.

queer unity and solidarity as we exit queer pride month and enter dissbled pride month.

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in regards to arospec characters and fandom, i feel like the real question that should be asked is:

why are you seemingly incapable of caring about a character unless theyre in a romantic relationship

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“there is no straight explanation for this” neither is there a gay one. there is however an aromantic one

#:eyes: