One of the things that allo society did wrong is using the term "sexual needs". These are not needs. Drinking is a need, sleeping is a need, eating, resting and breathing are needs. If you don't do them, you die. Sex is not a need, it is a want (a valid want, don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting sex) and I'm tired of hearing someone has "their needs". It's a gross thing to say that is often used to excuse not just aphobia but also r*pe (especially domestic), cheating and treating women like properties.
For anyone who thinks sex is a need I want to point out that celibate monks are among the healthiest people in the world. They haven't died out yet
i have a burning hatred for relationship hierarchies.
Why is it offensive to want to just be friends? Why is it expected for romantic partners to always take prioritization over friends? Why is it rude to tell someone you aren't friends, just chill with each other? Why are queerplatonic relationships seen as a step down from romantic relationships? Why is it bad to not want to make step ups in romantic relationships?
these labels have different meanings and levels importance to everyone, therefore they have no meaning or importance.
in my world, there are two places you can stand. next to me or the fuck away.
Max: In the light of what happened today, you may hug me from four to five seconds.
Daniel: Forty-five seconds?!
Max: No! FOUR TO FI–
Daniel: [holds Max] No take backs!
So I just saw a post by a random personal blog that said “don’t follow me if we never even had a conversation before” and?????? Not to be rude but literally what the fuck??????????
I’ve had people (non-pornbots) try to strike conversation out of nowhere in my DMs recently, and now I’m wondering if they were doing that because they wanted to follow me and thought they needed to interact first. I feel compelled to say, just in case, that it’s totally okay to follow this blog (or my side blog, for that matter) even if we’ve never talked before.
Also, I’m legit confused. Is this how follow culture works right now? It was worded like it’s common sense but is that really a thing?
one of my favorite stupid things to do in fanfic is to throw two characters together who literally never interact. and then give them an entire, fleshed-out relationship dynamic that exists nowhere but my own head. yes they’ve literally never spoken. yes their relationship is important to me. hope this helps.