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LDS aroace person here! You got this and we’re so proud of you! It makes sense to be scared, but you have so many people backing you up, both in this world and the one beyond, even if you don’t know them.

(lds teenager) I think I'm aroace and that scares me -- what should I do

First, congratulate yourself! Recognizing the absence of something is really much more complicated than what most people go through. 

Aromantic people still want acceptance and emotional connection with others as much as any other person. Aromantic people can have long-term, happy relationships with a partner.

While romantic love is not something you experience, you do have the capacity to love. You can experience a deep love for your parents, children, pets, and yourself. You can develop intense friendships, have nurturing and rewarding relationships and build strong bonds of love and respect with whomever you choose. However, these relationships will always feel platonic to you, not romantic.

Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. As for sex, there's a spectrum. Some ace people are sex repulsed but enjoy other forms of physical intimacy like cuddling, holding hands, and affectionate touching. Others enjoy sex, or sexual pleasure even if it’s not with another person.

I know ace people who are happily married. They don’t desire sex, but they recognize it’s a need for their partner and together they figure out when and how often and so on.

For any relationship to last, there needs to be friendship, trust, interest, commitment, collaboration. You can excel in all those things. You can learn your partner’s love language.

One thing I've seen over the years is most people find someone to share their life with. Most people wind up marrying a friend. If you want to marry, make friends. Find people who you enjoy being with. You may develop a squish for someone, that desire to have a more intensely personal friendship with them. There is absolutely no reason why you cannot have the life you dream of.

Being aroace is not a reason to be afraid. Being aroace is not a tragedy, it's simply a different way of experiencing life.

#aroace #tumblrstake #aromatic #asexual #aromantic #ldsconf #aro #ace #queerstake

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(SPOILERS FOR THE LAND OF STORIES) okay so sorta outing myself as a Land Of Stories fan, but who cares the it’s a great book series. So we all know the potion that can make any work of fiction real, and this potion worked on greek mythology. Greek mythology isn’t collectively seen as fiction though, majority does, but accent Greeks, and some people nowadays, see it as real. This is the same as the bible. Not everyone sees it at nonfiction, some see it as completely fiction. Would the potion work on the bible???? Could have the masked man got fucking God on his side???

#the land of stories #the wishing spell #the enchantress returns #a grimm warning #across the kingdoms #an authors odyssey #worlds collide #chris colfer #the masked man #the bible

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I got to go to general conference in person for the last session which was so cool! I really liked Gary E Stevenson’s talk. Which was yalls favorite?

#ldsconf #general conference #queerstake #tumblrstake #lds church #lds #gary e stevenson

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Oaks: some people discard the rules of society but for millenia we have seen that to be in a society we must follow rules (paraphrasing I don’t remember what he said)

Me: is he trying to talk about queer people or anarchists?

My boyfriend: I thought he meant HOAs

#ldsconf #genconf #lds #lds church #general conference #tumblrstake #queerstake

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I’m kinda obsessed with this talk. It’s the first one I’ve actually gotten to listen to, and it’s like he’s speaking to me. God won’t turn me away just because I’m trans, gay, etc, he wants me there specifically and infinitely. His plan is not about roadblocks, it’s about salvation and acceptance

#ldsconf #kearon #tumblrstake #queerstake #lds #mormon

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“Men are that they might have joy” is one of the few uniquely Mormon scriptures that really stuck out to me as powerful and moving. That and all the stuff about wealth and class and pride

#it’s my favorite verse #and the only one my grandpa highlighted in his mission scriptures #ldsconf #tumblrstake

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I wish it was easier to find aro / ace / aspec historical figures.

there are quite a few examples of queer historical figures, because it's easy to point at a person and say, "their letters and their living situation makes it very very likely that they were romantically and/or sexually involved with this other person." it is much harder to find evidence of a person being aspec, since the lack of evidence of something doesn't mean that something isn't there.

not to mention, the aspec is so diverse and often abstract that it's hard to pinpoint what qualifies as aspec when the person themself isn't here to find a label that they want.

I just want someone to look at, to relate to, to prove that we've been here all along.

#history #aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #asexuality #aromantism #aro

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J M Barrie, author of Peter Pan, was likely asexual and/or aromantic! The boys who the Lost Boys were based on said that they had never known him to be interested (romantically or sexually) in anyone of any gender or any age (in response to people wondering if he was a pedophile because he wasn’t interested in his wife or the boys’ mother).

Peter Pan is “unable to feel love” because he will forever be a child. Captain (James) Hook is “unable to feel love” because he is evil. Both of these reflect the way J.M. Barrie saw his own sexuality or lack thereof, since it was often said that he was stuck in his childhood and unable to grow up due to the traumatic death of his brother, and Captain Hook is named after the author (J stands for James).

I wish it was easier to find aro / ace / aspec historical figures.

there are quite a few examples of queer historical figures, because it's easy to point at a person and say, "their letters and their living situation makes it very very likely that they were romantically and/or sexually involved with this other person." it is much harder to find evidence of a person being aspec, since the lack of evidence of something doesn't mean that something isn't there.

not to mention, the aspec is so diverse and often abstract that it's hard to pinpoint what qualifies as aspec when the person themself isn't here to find a label that they want.

I just want someone to look at, to relate to, to prove that we've been here all along.

#I can’t think of any other historical figures #but there’s one! #aromantic #asexual #history #arospec #aroace #acespec #asexuality #aromantism #aro

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i mean, there’s typecasting

and then there’s playing a version of cinderella’s stepsister four times

four

separate

productions

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why so many blueberries /hj

I honestly don’t remember it’s the same username I came up with for my webkinz account when I was like 5 lol

I think my first webkinz favorite food was blueberries???

#asks and replies #asks

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They can, but are you portraying their romantic/sexual relationships in ways that still show they are aroace? Do you show how the relationship may be different from a “typical” one because of their sexuality and romantic orientation? If not, you are no longer writing an aromantic OR asexual character, much less both

"AroAce people can still date" SHUTUPSHUTUPSHUTUP LET THE SILLY AROACE CHARACTERS BE AROACE PLEASE, YOU ALL HAVE EVERYONE ELSE. LEAVE THEM ALONE

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #aspec #aromantism #aro #ace

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Do you ever have that feeling like capitalism is already dead and has been for like 15 years, but its vast, rotting husk still hangs immovably over the world and everything is decaying around you?

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It's still kinda wild how Phineas and Ferb managed to completely hijack an idiom. Now whenever someone hears a sentence leading with "If I had a nickel for everytime [...]", odds are their brain auto fills with "I'd have two nickels. Which isn't a lot, but it's weird that it happened twice," rather than "I'd be rich," or "I could [action that requires purchasing something requiring an obscene amount of money]". Y'know, what the idiom originally was

#phineas and ferb #language

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I’m about to say something controversial. I loved the PJO TV series. I loved it so so much.

But.

It wasn’t perfect. There’s so much I wish they had done better and I know they COULD have done better.

I love the addition of the gold chair scene BUT I wish they had introduced Annabeth’s fear of spiders by having the spiders chase them into the chair. I loved seeing Sally give Percy blue jellybeans and blue pancakes BUT I wish they had shown her in her “Sweets on America” uniform and perhaps had Gabe say something like “Oh again with the stupid blue candy” and her or Percy answer “so it’s a real thing now, huh?” so new watchers could maybe get an idea of where it came from. I love that we got to see Sally as a real person BUT I think they made her too harsh and she could’ve been a frustrated single parent without getting mad at her young son for missing her or because he was scared and she was being judged. I loved Annabeth geeking out over Hephaestus’ creations BUT I missed the cheesy merch clothes (and don’t say Annabeth wouldn’t steal them, she literally pickpocketed Hermes)

It’s ok to say that things were wrong. But you know what? It’s also ok to say that you enjoyed certain elements. The show doesn’t have to be entirely bad or entirely good. I hated the Crusty scene but I loved Poseidon’s surrender. I hated Charon’s weak character design but I loved Ares’ character and his conversation with Grover.

#pjo #pjo series #disney pjo #pjotv #pjo disney+ #pjo tv show #pjo fandom #percy jackson and the lightening theif #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson

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be aware.

#happy aromantic spectrum awareness week!! #aromantic #queer #lgbtq #pride #aspec #aro #aromantic spectrum #arospec

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Henry's so me coz if I saw the nerd kids doing shit and geo-locating a dead Welsh King I'd want in too ok??

#adam parrish #blue sargent #dick gansey #raven boys #gansey boy #noah czerny #raven cycle #ronan lynch #the raven boys #henry cheng